Are You Honoring Yourself?

July 16, 2010

Are you honoring yourself?

I would like to ask you to ponder this very serious question. In this current economy with the challenges that are all around us, are you still honoring yourself? You may ask, what does that mean?

Here’s a story that may help illustrate my point. I had a wonderful conversation with my wife, Michelle the other day about an art workshop that she attended. She and small group of artists have attended this once per year for the past 4 years at a private residence. The interesting thing is that many of the people who attended this year had not seen my wife, Michelle Matisse, in four years since she’d created her first ‘real’ painting.

When my wife Michelle had left our house on the way to the workshop, she was not in a very enthusiastic mood about her painting career. In fact, she was a little down because she has a day job, which she loves, but that is not her passion, this is a common story amongst us artist types!

The funny thing is that over the past four years, she’s been extremely busy and motivated getting her art “business” up and running. Michelle has been painting, teaching workshops, attending workshops around the world, posting lots of new art on Facebook and her own website (www.yessy.com/sacredspiralart). She’s really been applying herself 110 percent, in addition to having a day job, 2 loving children, with 2 cats (Yin and Yang) and a Yorkie (Buda), and a husband! For those of you who have a life outside of your day job, you’ll definitely appreciate this!

She’s also been in major self re-invention mode, which is the fuel for all of this. But in all that she’s been doing, it’s hard to see one’s own self and self accomplishments. So when she arrived at this workshop, she was greeted as a celebrity – which was completely shocking to her, but the interesting thing is that when you are busy doing the work and promoting yourself, you don’t often see what others see, because you are too busy in the trenches doing the work.

The great thing about this story is that the universe knows exactly what we need when we need it. Needless to say, the amazing reception Michelle experienced helped her to take a few moments to honor herself and the work she has been doing tirelessly over that past many years.

The truth is that the work never stops! There’s never a point when you stop and say to yourself, I have it all…. And if you ever do that, it’s only for a moment, because having it all requires a lot of work!!!
So for those of you who are in the world experience the ebb and flow of life and maybe not feeling as good about yourself due to life’s challenges as you have felt in the past, I share this story with you because my wife’s truth helped me to take a moment to honor myself just by her sharing the gift of her story with me.

May you find healing in these words…

Ron Nash
Master Career Strategist
http://www.DreamJobUniversity.com

“Changing the Paradigm for Job Seekers”

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What’s your Story?

May 28, 2010

Ok, this is going to be short, but sweet! I had a conversation with a good friend of mine recently and the conversation triggered my awareness to something that is LIFE CHANGING IMPORTANT! Often times in life we have two modes; that of feeling good or great, and that of not feeling good (some would call that state feeling bad).

In our conversation, I made a huge distinction and that is, often time when we are feeling good or great it’s because our INTERNAL STORY that we are telling ourselves is a good story. Good feelings emanate, the sun is shining and there’s not a worry in the world.

However, when our INTERNAL STORY is not so good or (bad), we have the tendency to focus on what’s going wrong, how things aren’t working, how we are running out of cash, how bad the job market is, how the world is going to end by 2012…. You get the point.

This is all driven by our INTERNAL DIALOGUE. I go into more detail on this topic and the psychology of why this occurs in my book, “How to Find Your Dream Job, Even in A Recession”.

Anyway, the morale to this STORY is that I hope you are now aware of the stories you are telling yourself each day – this is the one thing that determines how you feel and WHAT YOU GET OUT OF LIFE EVERYDAY.

Until we meet again.

Ron Nash
Master Career Strategist
http://www.The Friend Zone.TV
“If you’re not a Friend, you’re just another job seeker”


Which Box Are You In?

May 6, 2010

I just had the pleasure of delivering a tough love coaching session to someone who is in my Dream Job Online Coaching Program. The conversation was triggered by an event that occurred within the last 24 hours. Truth be told is that I had promised for a couple of months that I was going to make an introduction to a friend of mine who is a principal partner for a very busy architectural firm, but hadn’t done it. So in my recent conversation with him I took massive action and created an introductory email that included his resume.

Within 24 hours I had a response from my friend (hiring manager) stating, “While we are very busy, we are being very careful about hiring people at this time, however, I’m always interested in meeting very talented people.” Mind you, this is a multi-national architectural firm.

Now, I was absolutely delighted when I saw the email and expected a very enthusiastic phone call from my candidate. No – nada – nothing! I waited for a day before I made the call to ask if he had seen the email and he replied that he did. I naturally asked why he didn’t call me follow up on the opportunity. He then started to tell me his “STORY”, you know the thing that many of us do by default when we know that we are full of SHITE!

I listened, as I always do. Then I asked him a few questions, but the biggest question was, “Which Box Are You In?” He replied, “What do you mean?”

I told him a story about an amazing friend of mine named Kenrick Chatman, who has a website called The Career Catalyst.

Kenrick actually reaches out to top Authors, CEO’s, or anyone willing to share information that will benefit a job seeker in this economy. His show and blogs are AWESOME!

Kenrick was unemployed for almost one year before accepting an offer from a company recently. He created this show which allowed build relationships with anyone he targeted.

You see, Kenrick is a fearless person who will do anything that he can to position his brilliance as a savvy out-of-the-box solutions provider (which is what Corporate America resonates with – people who solve problems), which is why he is and will always be employed and employable.

I asked my candidate from Kenrick’s example, “Which Box Are You In?” I said, because Kenrick truly doesn’t even acknowledge that there is a box; but most of us live inside of the constraints of a box.

In fact, I challenged him to do the following:

1. Review and list everything you’ve done this month toward your job search
2. List how many networking, webinars, groups you’ve attended
3. Note whether any of the events gave you “Mission Critical Information”
Note – did you put the information to work or did you do like most people and listen with no action
(many people listen to great ideas and do nothing, they are all in the same box!!!)
4. List how many decision makers you were able to connect with as a result of this information
5. Be very honest with yourself – STOP the things that are not producing tangible results – they are just fillers. DO MORE of the things that produce results
6. Spend more time learning to be outside of your box, which is your comfort zone.

In other words stop doing what EVERYONE else is doing, especially if it’s not working. There are many support groups that exist where people are sharing stories of their struggles and other information, which can be useful, but I’m not a fan of “Pity Parties”, this is the time to be different in your approach.

I can tell more of this story, but the moral is very simple. If you are currently finding yourself in a place where you are not getting the results you need in your job search, ask yourself very honestly, “Which Box Am I In”.

Ron Nash
Master Dream Job Strategist
The Friend Zone.TV
“If you’re not a Friend, you’re just another job seeker!”


No Plan, No Goals, No Vision!!!

April 10, 2010

Ok, if you’ve followed me at all, you’ll know that I am way overdue for a blog! In fact, this is my first blog in 2010 and we’re already in April, OMG!!!

Now, you may or may not ask, what happened and where have you been. So the short story is, that I’ve been resting my brain and getting refocused. The long story is more interesting.

For any of you who know me or have seen me speak, you’ll know that I’m fairly energetic (without coffee). I usually have my goals set and my vision in focus by December of every year so that I can come into the New Year kickin’ butt and taking names.

But, not this year, actually, it’s the first time in almost 15 years that I haven’t done my usual process… Why? Because I needed rest. In 2008 I wrote my first book, “How to Find Your Dream Job, Even in a Recession” and built the e-learning system that accompanies the book all in the same year!

In 2009, I started the process of marketing and speaking to promote my efforts. I spent an entire year learning more about social media marketing, being on radio shows and travelling to speak at any place that would have me. Mind you, I did all of this while volunteering at my kids school, cleaning house, doing laundry (including folding), cooking, shopping and being a good husband (my wife gets a cup of tea in bed everyday – during the week and Saturday’s).

What does all this have to do with goals or plans? A lot. Here’s what I noticed has been going on with myself. After re-inventing myself due to the market change and life changes necessary, I had to create a whole new direction for my career, which was documented in my book.

At the end of this two your extensive process, I’ve need to rejuvenate, which is a natural process for all living things. The challenge is that many times we do not honor the body and it’s need to rejuvenate, thus, we continue forcing ourselves to keep going. The story that we have to make money is one of the biggest things we tell ourselves to keep us moving.

Truth be told is that when you need to rest the brain and or the body, it has a way to get your attention. Sometimes they even make us sick in order to get our attention so that we’ll slow down a little. When that happens, the money story becomes null and void – you must slow down and rejuvenate.

We’ll here it is April 11th and while I’ve been rejuvenating, I’ve still been actively involved in re-visioning my life. This is part of the dream job vision process that I teach in my online course. Yes, even I have to do what I teach and it works!

So far this year, I’ve worked with Mr. Cesar Millan (Dog Whisperer), Don Miguel Ruiz (Author of The Four Agreements and The Fifth Agreement), Carlos Santana, Eckhart Tolle, and some others.

I only say this to let you know that my dreams are also important as I blaze the trail to help people achieve their dreams, even in a down economy.

So, as I rejuvenate and recalibrate, my new vision is starting to arise from the rest that I’ve allowed and my goals are starting to make sense again. So the moral of this story is, it’s ok to not set goals or have a plan; sometimes its necessary to listen to your internal voice, which is your instinctual self.

Take time to listen to that voice daily; it’s truly a gift from the universe that many of us don’t utilize, but it is your compass in life if you honor it. My friend Cesar Millan speaks about the Instinctual nature of people in all of his books and in his work as The Dog Whisperer, I encourage you to listen to what he has to say, because it’s not just about dogs.

Ron Nash
Dream Job Strategist
http://www.TheFriendZone.Tv
“If you’re not a Friend, you’re just another job seeker”


Fear of the 400 Pound Phone and your Job Search!

August 25, 2009

Ok – As many of you know, this is a very challenging economy and as I’ve stated a number of times, this time your job search requires thinking “out of the box”. But what does that mean? For MANY of you, your job search consists of going to Monster.com, Careerbuilder.com, or a company’s website to apply. And after a certain amount of time with little or no result, you become frustrated. You then say that “there are no jobs out there”. And like ever other “in the box” job seeker does – you give up….At this point, settling for anything becomes your default; because you never did the work.

The interesting thing about your job search is that you are closer to having results than you may think, you just need a 2 millimeter shift in how you think. What I mean is that instead of just looking on Monster and Career Builder, you can use other resources such as Linkedin.com – check out my blog on Social Networks as well as the menu bar on my website under “Career Resources”.
You see, the biggest challenge that most job seekers have is what I want to call “Fear of the 400 Pound Phone” (I’ll credit Matt Bud for that term). Yes, phone call reluctance is the NUMBER ONE KILLER of job seekers.

I’ve spent the last 15 years of my life on the phone as a professional Headhunter. I’ve seen many people come and go in my profession. The one’s who made it are the one’s who didn’t mind dialing (don’t get me wrong – you have to have some other skills to be successful in headhunter) and doing the heavy lifting!
Many job seekers are afraid of picking up the phone and doing the heavy lifting or making the phone calls.

5 Top Reasons for Phone-a-phobia:
1. Fear of not knowing what to say; and that you’ll embarrass yourself.
2. Fear of Rejection, that someone will not be interested.
3. Fear of talking to someone you don’t know; many people don’t know how to build rapport with strangers.
4. Fear that will blow a potential lead and can never go back!
5. Fear that you won’t be successful in your attempt to network or find a job.

Ok – there are probably more that I can mention, but the truth is that these are all things that can be overcome quite easily. How????? Yes, that’s the question of the day. By doing one simple thing. PREPARING!
As a headhunter, one of the things that has led to my continued success is preparing for the task at hand.

5 Cures for Phone-a-phobia:
1. Prepare a list of potential clients (50 companies)
2. Have a list of prepared questions.
3. Have your 15 second elevator pitch ready.
4. Have your resume ready (professionally written or critiqued is a must).
5. Have a phone script ready. (I provide one in my FREE book!)
6. Have a regiment that you stick to – this requires discipline and accountability!

Just like a golf swing, the more you do it the better you get. Maybe a better analogy is walking – when you were a baby, you didn’t know how to walk, but you kept trying – look at you know!

I recommend that you listen to my “How to use Linkedin like a Headhunter” audio FREE @ http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thecareercatalyst. You can also download my book for FREE for a limited time. My site has a ton of valuable information that you can use.

The winds of life are always blowing, it is you who must raise the sails!

Ron Nash
Master Career Strategist
http://www.TheFriendZone.Tv
“If you’re not a Friend, You’re just another job seeker


Action creats Motion and Motion creates Results!

August 19, 2009

Ok – some of you are saying this Ron Nash guy always writes very philosophical blogs. Well, you’re right, I’m a philosopher – philos means Love and sophia means wisdom. Get it – philos sophia – philosophy….Love of Wisdom. Which brings me to my story. I had a wonderful conversation with an outstanding friend of mine whom I’ve known for almost 15 years. She told me about how she was laid off 3 months ago and how no one was responding to her resume through Monster, Career Builder and by directly applying to companies through their websites.

In fact, she told me that one position she applied to online had over 435 applicants! There is little chance of being seen in that type of cattle call. The cool thing about what we discussed was her ability to think ‘out of the box’. She told me that she finally got tired of having NO RESULTS and decided to learn to use Linkedin. After her crash course she performed searches for anyone that she had worked with in the past who might lead her to another connection.

She finally found a person she worked for in the past but had not way of contacting here, because the Linkedin profile was not updated (always keep your profile updated, you never know how it will help!). However, Linkedin provided enough information for her to dig a little deeper and track this person down at another company. She used some of the same strategies that I talk about on my FREE audio, “How to use Linkedin like a Headhunter“. My friend was able to make a connection which led to two interviews almost immediately by working her “FRIEND NETWORK”.

Because her friend recommended her, things are moving FAST! She immediately was able to create an with the CEO and VP of HR, that’s a story worth telling. I only tell this story to illustrate the idea that you MUST have ACTION which creates MOTION and the natural by product is RESULTS! If you follow the steps in my Linkedin strategy, you WILL produce results – it’s that simple.

I encourage you to think outside of YOUR box and to try things you haven’t tried before. There is an old friend or new friend out there waiting to help you find your dream job.

Remember my mantra – “If you’re not a friend, you’re just another job seeker!

Ron Nash
Master Career Strategist
Author of “How to Find Your Dream Job, Even in a Recession”
http://www.TheFriendZone.Tv


Apply Where Your Passion Is…

August 6, 2009

A friend of mine is an amazing artist and has had no luck selling her art during this down economy. She’s been applying for any type of jobs to earn income, but has had no luck. In fact at the age of forty something she’s had to move back home with her 70 year old mom – that doesn’t feel good for the ego!

She told me her story the other day while dropping my son off from a play date. I asked her the magic question, “If you could do anything that you imagined, what would you do?”, naturally she replied, “Be an artist!” I then asked the second magic question, “Why are you applying to places that don’t nurture your artist personality?” She then said, “because I need the money”.

Hmmmm – many of us use the MONEY reason for us not following our passions and as a result, we never live the life we dream….That’s what I call, “The thief in the dark mentality“, it robs you of your dreams without you even knowing.

Ok – I then suggested something to her. Why don’t you make a list of every art supply store within a 30 mile radius (or commutable distance) and go to every large and small store to apply for a job. BING, BING, BING, BING!!!! Her eyes lite up and she said, “I’ve never thought about doing anything like that!”. I then said, “that’s what I do – I help create strategies for people.”

She is now creating a list of companies and following a very simple plan that will lead to her working in the field she is passionate about.

The End.

What is your passion, and what is your story? Are you using the Thief in the Dark Mentality, or is your story supporting your dreams?

Ron Nash
Master Career Strategist/Author of “How to Find Your Dream Job, Even in a Recession”
http://www.The Friend Zone.Tv
“If you’re not a friend, you’re just another job seeker!”