The current economy has yielded tough times for many, however, I’d like to share a gift with you that may shed some light!
On February 11th, 2003, my father (Big Ron) passed away at the young age of 66. I was just getting ready to celebrate my 41st birthday. Almost two years later, I had an epiphany that I now refer to as “The Rule of 23.” At that time, my own age was 43, just 23 years from my father’s age when he died. I am absolutely convinced that if my father knew he was going to pass away at the age of 66, he would have taken more risks, traveled more, loved life more—basically lived more passionately, without fear or regret.
I have decided to honor my father by using the event of his passing as a positive gesture; as a real spiritual awakening! I have decided to live, conscious of the fact that I may only have 23 years or less on the planet. This is quite sobering; thus, the child in me who is fearless and fun MUST live!
How do I apply “The Rule of 23” to my everyday behavior? Typically, we live like we have an open-ended contract to life, which is why when someone close to us dies, we are emotionally distraught. We never think about the finite amount of time we really have. We’re often too busy working and carrying out the mundane activities of life.
The idea I focus on everyday is that I only have now and anything is possible. Before the day is over someone on the planet will cease to exist—it could be me, therefore, I have committed to live with passion, love, truth and openness and not be afraid to take chances. I am committed to embracing the precious moments with which life has blessed me—no longer taking life for granted and expecting that it is going to be here when I wake up. So to my father, I dedicate my book and promise to “Live like I was dying.” (Tim McGraw, “Live like you were dying – Curb Records.”)
A) Get a glass jar that you can keep for many years. Put it in a place where you will see it every day. Fill it with 75 jellybeans. Why? The average person now lives for 75 years. Take your current age, then subtract the number of jellybeans out from the container. You should now have a number that is less than 75 (if you have no jellybeans left, consider yourself extremely fortunate!) Every year on your birthday take one jellybean out and eat it. This exercise is designed to raise your awareness of how precious your time really is.
Master Career Strategist